Passing it on

[catsittingstill]

I got this from a friend's blog post. She was writing about an article in Shakesville on the costs of abortion vs adoption, from the perspective of a woman who has done both.

I have given a baby up for adoption, and I have had an abortion,....Believe me when I say that of the two choices, it was adoption that nearly destroyed me - and it never ends.

 

Powerful article.

Comments

[randwolf.livejournal.com]

Avedon Carol, who first brought this issue to my attention, weighs in.

[Further thoughts] I notice that Avedon says, "never"--that adoption is always hard on the mother. The plural of anecdote isn't data, of course, but that is experience speaking, which is the best we can do until real studies are undertaken.

[catsittingstill.livejournal.com]

She seems to feel the same way I do, though she doesn't seem to be speaking from personal experience either. I'm not sure from her brief piece how much contact she has had with women who gave up babies for adoption--though it sounds like she has had some.