Passing it on

[catsittingstill]

I got this from a friend's blog post. She was writing about an article in Shakesville on the costs of abortion vs adoption, from the perspective of a woman who has done both.

I have given a baby up for adoption, and I have had an abortion,....Believe me when I say that of the two choices, it was adoption that nearly destroyed me - and it never ends.

 

Powerful article.

Comments

[kittyguitar.livejournal.com]

I can easily understand why adoption might be more traumatic than abortion for some people. When someone has an abortion, that's it. No child, the end.

They never have to wonder how that child's new parents are going to treat it. They never have to wonder if it's happy. They never have to worry about its coming back in 20 years and demanding to know why they didn't keep it. They never have to think about how they'd handle that if it happened.

I remember a case that was in the news several years ago about a child who had been adopted by the lawyer the birth mother hired to handle the adoption. The said lawyer then proceeded to abuse and neglect the little girl to death--she died at the age of six. The birth mother fought for custody of the child's remains--don't remember how that turned out.

The world is a big, scary place, and sending a helpless child out into it without you is not for the faint of heart.

[catsittingstill.livejournal.com]

I hadn't considered before the idea that a child one gave up for adoption might actually be *abused* by its new parents. That's appalling. I suppose that most adoption agencies have policies in place to try to prevent that as much as possible, but still, that's pretty chilling.