The State of Marriage (finally something positive)

[catsittingstill]

There is an interesting article here in the New York Times about marriage and gender relations.  It's nice to see something that doesn't try to frighten or guilt-trip women, and the situation being discussed seems a change, but not a bad one.

Personally I'd have skipped the engagement ring--I had a satisfying discussion with Alice last weekend about how the engagement ring tradition plays into all kinds of ugly stereotypes that I would rather see fade into well deserved obscurity.  But, you know, this is uncharted territory and people are fanning out and finding their own paths that will differ from the traditional path, but also from mine, and that's okay.

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[technoshaman.livejournal.com]

I would've skipped the expensive jewelry too... jenkitty flat-out told me after I popped the question that if I showed up with a diamond she was gonna dump me for being a spendthrift. OTOH, a lot of folk enjoy wearing *something* circular (ring, necklace, whathaveyou) as an outward token of partnership... the claddagh ring is pretty popular - and inexpensive, which appeals to those of a Celtic nature :)

But, yeah. Methinks there's a sea change that's been going on pretty much all our lives about the whole nature of partnerships, etc... and I for one think it's a good thing. The whole rock/no rock, kids/no kids, who-stays-at-home, who-does-the-cooking thing has become quite fluid... even down to my hopelessly white-bread sister and her hubby, who live not far from you... he's (a) going back to school and (b) does a fair bit of the cooking, having been a professional at it...

But the fact that one *can* chart one's own course is very much a goodness.